"There's nothing more beautiful than loving someone who truly loves you back!"
Dr. Debi
We’ve made a lot of mistakes when it comes to marriage.
Not only as individuals — but also as mental health professionals and marriage educators.
We’ve treated marriage as if it were the end game.
But it’s meant to be the beginning.
Marriage is commitment, covenant, and legal contract.
Those things matter.
But they are not the final destination.
The purpose of living is loving — and being loved.
Love is not a finish line.
It’s a direction.
And for far too long, we’ve been trying to get there without a proper map.
Instead, we focus on the marriage itself.
Fighting for a marriage.
Saving a marriage.
All the while remaining surprisingly clueless about how to love and enjoy one another in the process.
The quality of a marriage is the byproduct of the daily interactions between a man and a woman — multiplied by time.
Marriage is the Dance of Life.
You don’t master it all at once.
You learn how to love one another as you go.
A man and a woman are different by design.
Each experiences life — and love — in a distinct way.
Together, those differences spark the synergy that creates sweet harmony.
Sometimes, they're out of sync and feel like a complete mismatch.
But being out of sync doesn’t mean their dance is over.
In real life, a man and a woman are designed to dance as one
— to move together — but never in total unison.
That would be boring and passionless.
And who wants that?
The first step is learning to truly know your mate —
and allowing your mate to truly know you.
Because you cannot love someone you do not know.
One Purpose.
Two Perspectives.
The Dance of Life begins here.
Born to Be a Hero
His perspective in the Dance of Life — leading with strength, confidence, and compassion.
Born to Be Wise
Her perspective in the Dance of Life — loving with wisdom, insight, and influence.
I invite you to join me as we explore the psychology of men, women, and marriage.
Drawing on my experience as a former professor and clinical psychologist, I teach what works, what doesn’t, and why — when it comes to creating a passionate partnership that can last a lifetime.
