The Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage
What Works. What Doesn't. And Why.
Discover the Simple Facts a Therapist Won't Tell You
Men and Women are different by design.
Always have been. Always will be.
And that's a very good thing!What would it take to make your "good enough" marriage great ... or your "already great" marriage better than ever?
And where can you begin when it seems you can't win?
You're in the right place for a fresh start!
Where women are valued.
And men are respected.
She married one of the good guys.
At least she believed he was a good man when she married him. He was cute and funny. Super smart. Protective. He had purpose and vision. He was crazy in love with her. She felt special and beautiful, which made her heart skip a beat and her spirit sparkle. She was super excited to spend the rest of her life with her best friend.
But something changed. Slowly at first. She ignored it for a long time. Now she feels disconnected. Alone in her marriage.
He's still a good guy. But why does he spend so much time at work? Why doesn't he want to spend time with her anymore?
They no longer share their dreams with one another. Now their conversations are only about the kids ... or the next task on a never-ending list.
Her friends don't know how unhappy she is. A few women in her social circle have shared their own complaints, which turned into all-out husband-bashing. That's not helpful. So she remains silent. Sad and confused. Aching and lonely.
If this sounds familiar, you are not alone.
Many women do not understand their husbands. And they know something isn’t right because their conversations are short, one word responses … they rarely laugh together anymore … they’re stuck in a monotonous routine of work, Netflix, bed … and there is no intimacy (and even if there is, it feels forced).
Her husband isn’t a “bad guy” per se, but their relationship certainly doesn’t have the spark it once had. And even though she couldn’t imagine getting a divorce, the thought has definitely crossed her mind.
She wondered what life would be like
... married to someone who is excited to see her … spontaneously taking her out on a weekend getaway … or noticing that she just got her hair done … or doing a double take when she walks through the room in a new dress … or when she overhears him talking on the phone gushing about how proud he is of her working so hard on her business and persevering even when things get hard.
The difference started with an Ancient Proverb ► A Wise Woman builds her house. But with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Now she feels a connection.
And things may not be perfect, but she definitely feels like their relationship just keeps getting better and better.
Your love story matters to me!
Hello. I'm Dr. Debi.
After closing my Clinical Psychology Practice, I decided to do something I’d always dreamed about ... teaching more men and women the truth about gender differences in marriage.
Now the same process I developed for my clients and students has become a Guide for anyone eager to learn.
I'm passionate about helping couples and singles discover ways to apply common sense values and the findings of psychological research to everyday life and romance.
Yes, I love helping the boy win back his girl.
But mostly ... I love helping the girl get what she wants. Which isn't as complicated as the boy believes it to be.
Remember, I'm a pragmatist. That is, I'm here to teach you some simple, practical solutions to everyday challenges.
Read my personal story.
"Dr. Debi is a powerhouse of heart and intellect — a psychologist, marriage educator, and storyteller on a mission to help women decode their husbands and couples rediscover connection. With the wisdom of a seasoned guide and the warmth of a trusted friend, she turns psychological science into breakthrough moments, weaving truth, humor, and grace into every workshop, course, and email. She's not just teaching marriage — she's redefining it." (Her Biggest Fan)
