A strong marriage needs a confident & compassionate leader & a woman who knows the power of her influence in the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth. Setting a goal always begins with knowing where you are now.
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“Your attitudes—positive or negative—not only can’t be hidden from others, but they also have a profound impact on your own brain and body.”
Dr. Caroline Leaf. Switch On Your Brain.
“Satan, the father of lies (John 8:44), will come at you with a thousand negative probabilities, but you always need to remember that a probability has no power. It only becomes powerful when you believe the lie and collapse the probability into an actuality.”
“We feel the pull of the sensory information coming in, but we don’t have to go there. … Our five senses activate an emotional response almost immediately, but if we don’t take the time to process them, the unprocessed emotion will dominate.”
“Our minds need time to understand what our spirits already know.”
~ Dr. Caroline Leaf, Switch on Your Brain:
The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, & Health
The Lord says, “Be still & know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth.” PSALM 46:10
We all try to stand strong. Keep a stiff upper lip. Not to be needy or negative. But the truth is, we are all vulnerable. God created us like this. Although it feels like (& is often judged as) weakness.
So what do you do with vulnerability? Not only yours, but other people’s?
There are only two ways to respond to vulnerability. One creates connection & empowers people to become more like person God created us to be. The other response kills us. Dying a slow death in a painful process.
Empathy. We all need it. Even men. In case you are wondering.
Empathy is feeling with someone. Even if that someone is you. Allow the hurt, sadness, & fear to be experienced & expressed. Recalling what you have felt & being willing to sit with another in the same emotional state is perhaps the most precious gift you have to give.
“You know what you have — Jesus, your great High Priest with ready access to God — don’t let that knowledge slip through your fingers. You don’t have a Priest who is out of touch with your experience. He’s been through vulnerability & testing Himself. So walk right up to Him & get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy. Accept His help.” HEBREWS 4:15
Shame. The destructive response.
Shame is an emotion we all experience. But it doesn’t have to become a lifestyle. You don’t have to carry these thoughts with you:
Shame focuses on who you are. It’s different than guilt, which focuses on your behavior. Something you have (or haven’t) done that you wish you didn’t do (or wish that you did do).
Are you unknowingly shaming others?
Perhaps the same way you have been shamed?
Yes, we are vulnerable creatures. Shame can destroy us. Whereas empathy destroys shame & sets us free to receive God’s goodness. Jesus made it possible by taking on our shame in Divine Exchange:
“Instead of your shame
you will receive a double portion,
and instead of disgrace
you will rejoice in your inheritance.
And so you will inherit a double portion in your land,
and everlasting joy will be yours.” ISAIAH 61:7
Being from a divorced family was much more unique in the 1950s than it is now, and apparently something for a child to be ashamed of. I didn’t realize that until my Bluebird Troop visited our local radio station when I was 7. The announcer engaged in a live interview with each of the girls. Continue reading
Our subjective experience doesn’t always align with what really happens. What we experience & remember — not reality itself — determines our mindset. That is, until we encounter another mind-changing experience.
I was born a blue-eyed blonde who was the apple of her daddy’s eye. But shortly before I turned 3, my mom packed her friend’s car with some essential belongings & left town with my older brother and me … while my dad was at work. He had no idea what was coming. None of us did.
All these years later, I still find myself telling people that my dad left me. I still have a hard time connecting with the fact that I was actually taken from him. Because the result was profound. An indelible imprint on my personality & my self-concept.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
& release from darkness for the prisoners,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
& the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
& provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
& a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair. ISAIAH 61:1b-3a
“Look! I’m making everything new. Write it all down—each word dependable and accurate.” REVELATION 21:5
You are significant & all that you do matters. The Power of God’s Presence surrounds & fills you with Beauty. You are not like any other woman who has ever lived.
You have many sisters, but your life — your person — is a unique Jewel in the Crown of Jesus. He bought you back from destruction. Now you belong to Him. So take your rightful place in Him & determine to sparkle & shine. A Beautiful Reflection of His glory & blessings.
This is your identity. This is who you are.
Nothing can pull you away from this God-given mission.