I love to see a woman who knows how to love her man. She knows he’s sensitive to her. And she uses that knowledge to build him up.
She responds lovingly to the man that God created him to be. Affirming both who he is – as well as who he is is becoming.
How does she do it? A Queen gives her King something he cannot get anywhere else. She nurtures his heart. Something every man needs. Daily.
Check out these examples.
A few years ago, I had the opportunity to attend a meeting led by a man whose teachings had greatly impacted my life. At the end of his presentation, I walked up to thank him for what he had done in accelerating my own spiritual growth.
Within moments, his wife was by his side. As she snuggled his arm with great affection, I gave her a quick, one-sentence summary of what I’d been saying to her husband.
She was all smiles. “Isn’t he great? Have you listened to his talk on _______? It’s the best! Amazing & powerful. I think we have it on the back table. You should get a copy!”
The man had been friendly & cordial up to that point. But he was obviously exhausted.
At the sound of her voice, his face broke into the one of the most joyous smiles I’d ever seen on a man. Her actions & her words were a mirror reflecting how God saw him.
Suddenly he just couldn’t help himself
because he was basking in her reflection of him.
Although he was a gifted speaker, he was an introvert. She was an extrovert. And I had the distinct impression she was rescuing him. I could see how tired he was. But she could feel it.
Just this morning, I was watching a video on YouTube. Different guy. One I’d not heard speak before. He asked his wife to come up & pray before he began. As soon as she began to pray, her enthusiasm for the Lord made him smile.
Then she touched her husband’s shoulder & continued, “And, Lord, this amazing, handsome, talented, kind, wonderful,” [paused with her hand on his back and head briefly on his shoulder] “man. God, we just pray, Lord, all of what you have to bring through him. God, we just say yes to that, too.”
His face lit up like a little boy’s on Christmas morning.
One who’d suddenly discovered exactly what wanted under the Tree.
- I actually replayed this clip several times.
- Such joy! Such fun! Such pure delight!
Both of these women understood their own man.
- They knew his hopes & fears.
- As well as the nature of his sensitivity.
- And they knew how to nurture his heart.
You can’t love & encourage a man if you don’t take time to get to know his heart at the deepest level possible. It begins with listening closely.