Resolving Cinderella’s Problem

Resolving Cinderella's ProblemWhat’s a better way of resolving Cinderella’s Problem?

I have often identified with Cinderella. She gets just one brief night of fantasy at The Royal Ball where she falls in love with the Handsome Prince, and he likewise falls in love with her. But then she must return to her life of Poverty and Rejection.

The Resolution of That Story depends upon the Handsome Prince.

Fortunately for Cinderella, the Handsome Prince feels her loss deeply. He cannot live without her, determines to find her no matter the cost, and makes her his wife. Happily ever after.

  • But what if the Problem is not her life of Poverty and Rejection?
  • What if the Problem is the false identity she has accepted?
  • What if the Problem is how she sees herself?
  • As a woman with no value?

Resolving Cinderella’s Problem

Rather than wait for the Prince to rescue her, she would be a Wise Woman to discover her True Identity.

Which – by the way – would make it a lot easier for the Handsome Prince to find her because she would be in plain sight rather than hiding – or being hidden by the lies that have surrounded her. A Double Win!!

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How to Be a Godly Woman

how to be a godly womanFor more than a decade, I have been teaching women about biblical, research-based ways to understand and partner with the men they love.

Furthermore, I realized that an awful lot of books written for women fail to (or inadequately) address our biblical partnership with men, especially with our husbands.

Women – in God’s original design – are way more important on this earth than we’ve been led to believe!

More recently I realized that most women – including myself – don’t fully understand our value & our purpose in today’s world.

And that Wisdom is personified as a Woman!

Yes, learning how to be a godly woman is more important on this earth than we’ve been led to believe! It takes wisdom & confidence to be influential for good.

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It really is about the girl.

I’ve been studying men
since I was 4 years old.

But for more than half my life,
I was thoroughly confused by them.

Then I changed my angle to that of
a psychologist & couples counselor.

What I learned
thoroughly surprised me:

It’s really all about the girl.

Who knew, right?

THE BOTTOM LINE: My plan is to help us get what we want!
So check this out & let me know what you think.

p.s I realize that some of my readers are not currently involved in a romantic relationship. Maybe you’re one of them. But if you’re at all interested in enjoying a romance someday, you need to know this stuff. It will help you understand yourself better & help you choose wisely when the time comes.


God must be a baseball fan.

Right after I gave birth to my third son, the doctor suggested that I must be going for a basketball team.

My immediate thought was, “I’d rather have a baseball team.”

Not because I wanted nine sons. But because I like baseball better.

Some thoughts are better left unexpressed.

Anyway … God must be a baseball fan, too. Because He decided to start the Bible in The Big Inning.

Excerpt from Dr. Debi Smith, Ephesians 5 Romance: the Truth about Love


Have your heart & your dreams been crushed by an unexpected turn of events?

What if God is in the midst of rescuing you from your version of His Dream for you?

We all have dreams. Ideas about what we want our lives to be. That’s how we were created: To dream. With God.

  • But so many times, we run ahead — plotting, planning, producing — full-speed into something that is far less than what Our Heavenly Father has planned for us. And we get ourselves into trouble. Big trouble.
  • We grasp & control, cry & despair. And we forget that God Himself has us — and His glorious plan — in process.
  • Even so, He never wavers in His desire to see us become all we are meant to be.

No matter where your heart & your dreams are today, Your Heavenly Father is saying to you …

I know the plans I have for you. They will stretch you. They are stretching you now. My plans are for your good and the only way you will be truly happy. Trust me. You are more dear and precious to me than you realize. I put those desires in your heart, and I am the only one who can fulfill them. Walk closely to me. You cannot screw this up. You cannot even delay it when you become fearful because I’m at work in your anxious times, too. Do not let shame rule over you. Do not listen to those lies. I will turn your mourning into dancing. You will face challenges, and you will overcome them all. Watch me. Watch what I do next. You’re going to love this one!

Be Still & Know

“Satan, the father of lies (John 8:44), will come at you with a thousand negative probabilities, but you always need to remember that a probability has no power. It only becomes powerful when you believe the lie and collapse the probability into an actuality.”

“We feel the pull of the sensory information coming in, but we don’t have to go there. … Our five senses activate an emotional response almost immediately, but if we don’t take the time to process them, the unprocessed emotion will dominate.”

“Our minds need time to understand what our spirits already know.”

~ Dr. Caroline Leaf, Switch on Your Brain:
The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, & Health

The Lord says, “Be still & know that I am God;
    I will be exalted among the nations,
    I will be exalted in the earth.” PSALM 46:10